Seeking Care Safely After Harm: Language for Survivors and Providers
Many Survivors have told me some version of this:
"I knew something felt wrong. I just didn't know what to call it."
That is more common than people realize.
You do not need perfect words to deserve help.
You [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Patti LaBelle, the Beautiful Assertion
Before the world knew her as Patti LaBelle, she was Patricia Louise Holte, a girl from Philadelphia with a voice that could rise from the church floor and shake the rafters loose.
Then came the name: LaBelle.
Beautiful.
[...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Opal Lee, Who Walked Until the Nation Had to Remember
Some people wait for permission.
Opal Lee did something older, wiser, and stronger. She walked.
She walked with history in her bones and freedom in her feet. She walked for Juneteenth when many people treated it [...]
Black Classics Reading List Created by Chelsea Yvonne
In the spirit of Juneteenth, free your mind!Â
These Black literary classics are worth a read or re-read.Â
Gratitude to Chelsea Yvonne for compiling this list of all-time greats.
đ¤ď¸ Clarity After Chaos [...]

Hidden Black Film Herstory: Stompin at the Savoy | Directed by Debbie Allen
Sometimes Black womenâs films are praised for being ânice,â ânostalgic,â or âbeloved,â while the craft gets undercounted. Stompinâ at the Savoy was not just charming. It was skilled. It was layered. It had emotional architecture [...]

For the Hate Crimes Prevention Act: Affirmations for Black People Carrying Too Much Hate from Too Many Directions
racism chases us down for miles.....
On this day, the anniversary of The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act which was signed into law by President Barack Obama on October 28, 2009. It expanded fede [...]
Emotional Bandwidth: Why You Sometimes Canât Be There for People You Love | Dr. Tracey Marks
Emotional bandwidth explained: why cognitive load and stress make empathy harder, and why low bandwidth looks like emotional unavailability in relationships. Take my FREE 3-min Brain Quiz to master focus & [...]

A Juneteenth Reflection for SurvivorAffirmations: Not a Bill. A Bridge.
Some of us grew up hearing about sacrifice in ways that hurt.
âI did everything for you.â
âAfter all I gave up.â
âYou owe me.â
Those words can land heavy in the body when love has been tied to guilt. Survivor [...]

10 Facts About Lift Every Voice and SING!
So my childhood was spent learning this song. We sang this and other songs like it for assemblies. I get out into the world and learn not only have others not heard the song but they see it as "hateful"?
Me: But you don't kn [...]

There Are Souls Beyond the Scoreboard: A History Lesson in Hope, Radio, and Second Wind (podcast episode)
We are not living in the time of afterschool specials, radio dedications, and songs that reached through the static to touch a hurting childâs heart.
So sometimes we have to borrow from the past.
We have to go back to song [...]

Before You Yell âCocaine,â Learn What 1980s Black Joy Looked Like
I get it. You see the far less expensive gas, housing prices, and food prices, and from 2026, that must look like heaven on earth. I get it. In the early 2000s I had a beautiful two-bedroom townhouse apartment for around $535.00 [...]

Dr. Tracey Marks: People Who Drain You vs. People Who Energize You
Why do some people calm your brain while others drain it? One of our favorite psychiatrists, Dr. Tracey Marks, explains how your nervous system regulates with safe peopleâplus a simple body check.
[...]
What âFind 100 Waysâ Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
The Playlist: Funk, Soul, and Body Release
Some anxiety does not need another explanation. It needs a doorway out of the body.
Sometimes anxiety does not leave through thinking. Sometimes it leaves through the shoulders. Through the jaw. Through the hands. Through the b [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a womanâs re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just âthe children are gone now.â
Not just a season people joke about with sadness, lon [...]
When Dismissal Tries to Turn You Against Your Own Body
âThe function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.â Toni Morrison
Mistreatment often tries to make th [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
đŹď¸ You Are No Longer Required to Calm the Storm
A Healing Post for Those Learning to Let Chaos Pass Without Joining It
There is a point in your healing journey when something sa [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From â Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that âhealingâ means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
I Deserve Safety. Not Spectacle.
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Youâre not here to entertain their curiosity.Youâre not here to be picked apart by strang [...]
The 12 Somatic Knots of Trauma â The Complete Map from Sacrum to Jaw (and How to Untie Them)
updated from March 24, 2024
Somatic healing is not just âtake a deep breath and calm down.â
Sometimes your body is holding a story your mout [...]
Sound, Spirit, and Survival: How Alice Coltrane Held Sacred Space
âđ˝ For SurvivorAffirmations.com
Some Survivors find their way through words.Some through silence.And someâlike Alice Coltraneâfind their way through [...]
An Affirmation for Growing Beyond the Outer Markers
I am growing beyond symbols.
Beyond badges, titles, memberships, and borrowed names.
What once helped me find my footing no longer defines my [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Before MTV: The Hidden Story of the First Black Music Video and the Legacy It Built
Thereâs something powerful about this moment in history.Not just the musicâbut the intention behind it.Movement. Precision. Style. Storytelling before [...]
Small Shifts, Big Relief: Real-World Ways to Defuse Everyday Stress
Stress isnât loud. It creeps in quietly. A clenched jaw, missed sleep, a flinch at a harmless notification. Left unchecked, it coils tighter. But [...]

Keep on Movin: Quotes on Perseverance from Black Women
⼠Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped b [...]
Why Harriet Tubman Gave the Gift the Freedom on Christmas Eve
Harriet Tubman helped her brothers escape at Christmas. Their master intended to sell them after Christmas but was delayed by the holi [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
I Will Not Shrink Myself So They Can Stay Comfortable in Their Denial
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
They ask you to soften your voice.To stop being âso angry.âTo say it âmore kindly.âTo âge [...]
Hajia Gambo Sawaba: She Did Not Wait to Be Allowed
(You should see how elated I am! This series is going to give me those laugh lines we are supposed to hate.)
There are women who were toldto stay sma [...]
10 Uplifting Quotes to Inspire and Empower Survivors on Their Healing Journey
"Your story is not just what happened to youâitâs what you dared to do next." â WeSurviveAbuse.com
"Every step you take toward peace is a [...]
Untold Inventions Of Black Women Inventors That Schools Don’t Teach in Black History
Surviving isnât luckâitâs innovation and strategy. âI create what has never been seen, because innovation runs in my bloodline.â [...]
8 Power Moves to Use When You’re Disrespected from Elle Lacey
I do like that we've moved towards accepting that there will be moments that people may not treat us with the amount of respect that we would hope. Wi [...]
She Is AMAZING
10 Inspiring Quotes from Survivor Queen Latifah
The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respec [...]
đş Frida Kahlo: She Lived in a Body That Hurtâand Still Created Beauty
 For a long time I celebrated Frida's art and had no idea she lived in pain. I was truly spellbound by the art. As a young person, I thought the art w [...]
Survivor Affirmation: My Scars Tell a Story of Strength
If youâve ever worried that sharing your story makes you look weakâLet me remind you what your story really says:
Something struck me.Something t [...]
Keep the Faith for Better Dayz: Healing Affirmations for the Weary Heart (video by Kirby)
Affirmations for Better Dayz inspired by the insanely beautiful and talented Kirby!
I am walking past the haze of yesterday and stepping into t [...]
Playing by Heart: Alberta Hunter and the Power of Soul Wisdom
Alberta Hunterâs life was a testament to the power of the "unpolished" authentic soul. She was a woman who conquered the world's stages, walked away t [...]
Sound, Spirit, and Survival: How Alice Coltrane Held Sacred Space
âđ˝ For SurvivorAffirmations.com
Some Survivors find their way through words.Some through silence.And someâlike Alice Coltraneâfind their way through [...]
ART HEALS
Soul Train: Where art became cross-cultural language
Soul Train. Soullll Train. The hippest trip in America.
 I was in front of my television nearly every Saturday morning and pouted when I couldn't be. [...]
Your Voice Is a Lighthouse: Keep Shining Through the Noise (Featuring Amazing Animated Story by BigBoi)
I woke up and encountered this story by BigBoi. Made my morning.
Your story has the power to do that too. Keep living. Keep crafting your storytel [...]
Dorothy Porter Wesley: The Woman Who Transformed the Dewey Decimal System
Libraries are often called the gateways to knowledge. But have you ever wondered who decides how books get organized? For over a century, most libra [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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