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Tammi Terrell’s Story Reminds Us That Survival Is More Than Staying Alive
When people speak about Tammi Terrell, they often begin with how young she was when she died.
Twenty-four.
They talk about the brain tumor. The interrupted career. The songs she never got to record. The future that was cut sho [...]

7 Reasons Survivors May Want to Read Taraji P. Hensonās Around the Way Girl
Sometimes the books that stay with Survivors aren't the ones written specifically about surviving.
Sometimes they are simply somebody telling the truth about her life.
Taraji P. Henson's memoir, Around the Way Girl, was pu [...]

Angie Stone, Roberta Flack & Gwen McCrae: The Power of Their Musical Legacy
Angie Stoneās Music Pulled Us ThroughāAnd Now, Sheās Gone.
Angie Stone has passed, and somehow, it still doesnāt feel real.
During one of my lowest valleys, her music became my guide, my comfort, my reassurance that I [...]

The Wishing Tree With Alfre Woodard: A Beautiful Movie About Finding Your Way Home + Full Movie
Sometimes you want a movie that doesn't demand everything from you.
Something you can put on while folding clothes, answering emails, working on a project, cooking dinner, or finally dealing with that pile of papers that has [...]

How Singing is Surprisingly Good for Your Health
There's a vocal teacher on Youtube that I love, and I wanted to share her with you. Kristel Cherelle's approach reminds me of our choir teachers back in school who had faith in our ability to sing if only we understood technique [...]

10 Lessons Women Can Take From Star Jones, Al Reynolds, and Everybody Who Had Something to Say
There was a time when Star Jones and Al Reynolds seemed to be everywhere.
The proposal came at the 2004 NBA All-Star Game. Then came the enormous wedding, the vendors, the publicity, the photographs, the commentary and eventu [...]

7 Survival Lessons From Eve: Your Life Is Allowed to Have More Than One Act
Some chapters prove you can survive. Others remind you that survival was never supposed to be the whole story.
I love Eve's music.
Let me get that out of the way because, obviously. Tambourine. Love Is Blind. Let Me Blow Y [...]

Vanessa Williams Refused to Become the Worst Thing People Said About Her
Deal with yourself as a individual, worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way. -Nikki Giovanni
It was 1984, and Vanessa Williams was surrounded.
Only months earlier, she had made history as the f [...]

Some People Don’t Wait for Affirmation. They Give It to Themselves.
They did not wait for the world to settle the question of their worth. They kept something sacred for themselves: the authority to know who they were.
There is an old story about Diana Ross. "Call her Miss Ross."
[...]

There Are No Children Here: When Survival Makes a Child Grow Up Too Soon
In 1993, Oprah Winfrey starred in a television movie called There Are No Children Here. She played LaJoe Rivers, a Black mother raising her children in Chicagoās Henry Horner Homes, a public housing development where violence, p [...]

Survivor Affirmations: You Are Not Too Late for Your Own Life
Maybe the life you imagined for yourself was supposed to happen by now.
That is the part we don't always say out loud.
You thought you would have written the book by now. Started the business. Finished school. Traveled. Ma [...]
Steve Harvey Survived the Closed Door Because It Wasn’t His Only Door
There is something Steve Harvey has been saying lately that I think is worth hearing beyond the celebrity story.
Harvey has spoken about conflict he experienced with a powerful television executive and what he believes ha [...]

You Remember the Beat. But Do You Remember What Chubb Rock Was Saying?
I have been thinking about Chubb Rockās āTreat āEm Rightā.
Maybe it is because I keep hearing people talk about hip-hop as though an entire generation of Black music can be summarized by the worst words anybody ever said on a [...]

Bob Mackie Set Beauty Free: Remembering a Designer Who Knew How to……
Before Bob Mackie dressed Diana Ross, Tina Turner, Cher, Dolly Parton and some of the most famous women in entertainment, Black women were already d-r-e-s-s-e-d.
Look at photographs of Black Americans from the 1920s, ā30s and [...]

Why Does He Get Angry When Youāre Happy? When Your Joy Becomes a Problem in a Controlling Relationship
Inspired by.......
Why womenās laughter has long been treated as a threat | Psyche IdeasĀ
Posted by Amy Diehl, Ph.D on X.com
There is a scene television loves to give us before a man becomes violent with a [...]

Florida A&M Marching 100: They Gave Dolly Parton Her Flowers Like Black HBCU Bands Do
A great Black marching band performance is not casual praise. It is labor as praise.
Somebody had to arrange ā9 to 5ā for that instrumentation. Musicians had to learn their individual parts. Sections had to rehearse until they [...]

Dance is a Weapon, a Womb, and a Journey Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didnāt know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.ā
Across time and across oceans, African peoples have danced through grief, joy, resistance, and survival. For us, dance has n [...]

Your Usefulness is Something You Give. Your Worth is Something YOU Have.
Sometimes people, even high-profile people push their fans and admirers away because THEY realize that they were performing and trying to earn love. They realize that the person that others loved wasn't the "real" them.
No, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Solidarity is Reciprocal
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?
If you are able, you definitely want to avoid allowing people to recruit you for battles and wars AND TH [...]

Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and professional boxing would make his hands famous around the world. He would defeat men [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
Helen Baylor’s Testimony| I Had a Praying Grandmother
Helen Baylorās gospel classic āA Praying Grandmotherā is more than a personal testimonyāitās a spiritual archive for many Black families. It speaks to [...]
I Didnāt Come Here to Absorb the Mess of People Who Refuse to Heal
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Thereās a special kind of pain that hits when the world punishes a victim for speaking up [...]
Finding Your Anchor: How to Prioritize What Matters in Times of Chaos
Man speaks out after climbing 19-story building during fire looking for his mother
In times of uncertainty, it is easy to feel pulled in [...]
Healing Is Not a RaceāItās a Resurrection
Healing was never about āgetting overā the past.It was never about rushing to a finish lineāBecause there is no finish line.
True healing is becoming [...]
7 Survival Lessons From Eve: Your Life Is Allowed to Have More Than One Act
Some chapters prove you can survive. Others remind you that survival was never supposed to be the whole story.
I love Eve's music.
Let me get th [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

When Being Yourself Is Labeled āPoliticalā: Why some people are punished simply for showing up
Nat King Cole really was attacked on stage during a concert in Birmingham, Alabama, in 1956.
While performing at the Municipal Auditorium in Birmingh [...]
⨠Knowing My Body Is My Birthright. āØ
Knowing about my body and how it functions is not shameful.It is not taboo.It is not ātoo much.ā
It is my right.As a woman.As a human being.As someon [...]

Tammi Terrell’s Story Reminds Us That Survival Is More Than Staying Alive
When people speak about Tammi Terrell, they often begin with how young she was when she died.
Twenty-four.
They talk about the brain tumor. The inte [...]

12 Free Books to Support Your Trauma Healing Journey
Whether youāre healing from personal trauma, systemic injustice, or generational pain, you deserve tools and support that honor the fullness of your s [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
šŗ Survivor Affirmations Post: āI Am No Longer Waiting for Them to See Meā
A declaration for the Survivor who has outgrown invisibility.
There was a time I whispered, hoping someone would hear.A time I stood still, [...]
Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From ā Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that āhealingā means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
Black Culture is SO Beautiful
Black culture is truly a wonderful vibe. Being Black is a beautiful blessing I wouldnāt trade for anything in the world!
Dear God, thank You for th [...]
12 Facts About Sounds of Blackness and Their Uplifting Song āOptimisticā
updated from 2 1 25
In times of struggle, we lean on music to remind us who we are, where weāve been, and what weāre capable of. Sounds of Blac [...]
Give Me 5 Minutes: What is a Toxic Relationship? (audio)
Are you engaged in a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship can be frightening and dangerous. In less than 5 minutes and in simple languag [...]
Hidden Black Film Herstory: Stompin at the Savoy | Directed by Debbie Allen
Sometimes Black womenās films are praised for being ānice,ā ānostalgic,ā or ābeloved,ā while the craft gets undercounted. Stompinā at the Savoy was no [...]
She Is AMAZING
Denise Ho: šæOnce You See It, You Canāt Go Back
āThe greatest gift in this life is always more of meāand I am not going back to less.ā
Denise HoĀ was a singer.
A successful one.
She had:
[...]
Vanessa Williams Refused to Become the Worst Thing People Said About Her
Deal with yourself as a individual, worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way. -Nikki Giovanni
It was 1984, and Vanessa [...]
India.Arie Sings “I Am Light”: Plus 10 of Her Affirmations
"I Am Light" ā India.Arie
The Vibe: A holy, minimalist prayer. Stripped down to just acoustic guitar and vocals, you are not your piecesāyou are di [...]
50 Things to Talk About Instead of Black Womenās Hair (Because Your Concern is Not Genuine)
Letās be honestāBlack womenās hair has been politicized, policed, and prodded at for far too long. Weāve worn it straight, coiled, locked, twisted, [...]
Hajia Gambo Sawaba: She Did Not Wait to Be Allowed
(You should see how elated I am! This series is going to give me those laugh lines we are supposed to hate.)
There are women who were toldto stay sma [...]
šæ Halimah Yacob: She Was Not Handed Ease. She Built Something Anyway.
Halimah YacobĀ did not begin life surrounded by comfort.
She lost her father young.Her family struggled.There were real limitations. Not imagined ones [...]
ART HEALS
The Phenomenal Phyllis Hyman, Institutional Betrayal, and Affirmations for Your Own Battles
Sometimes it isn't 'imposter syndrome.' Sometimes institutions just want you to be something that you are not because it is easier for them. B [...]
Black Classics Reading List Created by Chelsea Yvonne
In the spirit of Juneteenth, free your mind!Ā
These Black literary classics are worth a read or re-read.Ā
Gratitude to Chelsea Yv [...]
10 Lessons Women Can Take From Star Jones, Al Reynolds, and Everybody Who Had Something to Say
There was a time when Star Jones and Al Reynolds seemed to be everywhere.
The proposal came at the 2004 NBA All-Star Game. Then came the enormous w [...]
Naomi Osaka: They Mocked Her When She Was Hurting. Now They Mock Her for Shining
I can't. Some of the loudest fashion critics of Naomi Osaka are at work right now dressed like they came to help somebody move.
There is a particul [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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