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After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Before You Yell βCocaine,β Learn What 1980s Black Joy Looked Like
The adults around us didn't even have "McDonald's money" when cheeseburgers were four for a dollar. How do you figure everyone had [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
π΅ Everyday People: A Prayer for Boundaries and Belonging
βI am everyday peopleβ¦β
Simple words, sacred meaning.
Arrested Developmentβs βPeople Everydayβ is more than a remix of a classic β itβs a less [...]
My Scars Are Not Shame; They are Maps Showing How I survived What Was Meant to Break ME
π Affirmations for Strength and Becoming π
I am not defined by statistics or stereotypes. I am defined by my own choices, vision, and growth. [...]
π You Are the Reason They Built the Walls β Because You Could Walk Through Them
They told the story wrong.They said the walls were built to protect something holy.But the truth is β they were built to keep you out.
Because you co [...]
Big Life Lessons That Teach Black Girls to Silence Their Pain: Um, The Hair (audio)
Are we teaching girls to ignore their pain? Are we teaching girls that their pain doesn't matter? Are we doing enough? Th [...]
Can your brain really regrow after stress or trauma?
Stress, especially chronic or traumatic stress, can shrink parts of the brain β particularly the hippocampus (which handles memory and emotional regul [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

10 Gentle Ways to Grow Toward Accepting Your Flaws
πΏ You donβt have to be perfect to be powerful. You only have to be real.
For many Survivors, the pressure to be flawless wasnβt just emotionalβ [...]

A Life Well Played: The Legacy of Hal Williams
clip originally shared by @DjCobreezy on X.com
What stands out to me about Hal Williams is that he represented something important in Black tel [...]
How to Embrace Your Imperfections and Still Believe in Your Worth
πΏ A healing reminder for Survivors learning that they donβt have to be perfect to be powerful.
If youβre a Survivor, chances are you were taughtβdire [...]
β¨ You Donβt Need Anyoneβs Permission to Protect Your Spirit. β¨
You are allowed to leave rooms where your truth is treated like a burden.
You are allowed to say no without a long explanation.
You are allowed to t [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
Finding Freedom Through Movement: How Dance Becomes a Healing Journey from Abuse πβ¨
So, the fabulous Eartha Kitt was a triple threat. Dancer, singer, and actor. She was also a Survivor.
By every reasonable understanding of the word,Β [...]
ποΈ Affirmation Post: βThey Didnβt See, But I Survived Anywayβ
A voice for the ones who were never rescued, but rescued themselves.
They didnβt see me.
Not when the harm was loud.Not when the silence w [...]
An Affirmation for Growing Beyond the Outer Markers
I am growing beyond symbols.
Beyond badges, titles, memberships, and borrowed names.
What once helped me find my footing no longer defines my [...]
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Move Ahead (audio)
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π€ Affirmations for Black Girls Who Had to Be Strong Too Soon
Let this be your softness. Your sanctuary. Your yes.
I was never supposed to carry all that weightβbut I did. And I honor the girl who survived [...]
She Is AMAZING
The Story of Kemba Smith Pradia
May we continue to be reminded and never forget that women in prison (most of whom have survived painful abuse and violence) are indeed human beings.& [...]
BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
[...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our trut [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Tend My Own Light (w video)
We might not be able to be friends and that's okay.
β’ Part of my healing is recognizing that not every person deserves access to my spiri [...]
Quotes from Harlem Renaissance Author Nella Larsen
β¨ Nella Larsen was one of the most brilliant yet often overlooked voices of the Harlem Renaissance. Born in 1891 to a Danish mother and a West [...]
Survivor Affirmation: My Scars Tell a Story of Strength
If youβve ever worried that sharing your story makes you look weakβLet me remind you what your story really says:
Something struck me.Something t [...]
ART HEALS
They Went to a Jamaica Retreat Before a Hurricane and Found Belonging
I am a fan of how people from the African diaspora give love and how we embrace others.Β
There are seasons when life feels like a storm that just won [...]
Playing by Heart: Alberta Hunter and the Power of Soul Wisdom
Alberta Hunterβs life was a testament to the power of the "unpolished" authentic soul. She was a woman who conquered the world's stages, walked away t [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our trut [...]
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
When an American presidential administration attempted to blacklist and silence Eartha Kitt, she simply took her talents and skills overseas where [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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