
Vanessa Williams Refused to Become the Worst Thing People Said About Her
Deal with yourself as a individual, worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way. -Nikki Giovanni
It was 1984, and Vanessa Williams was surrounded.
Only months earlier, she had made history as the f [...]

Some People Don’t Wait for Affirmation. They Give It to Themselves.
They did not wait for the world to settle the question of their worth. They kept something sacred for themselves: the authority to know who they were.
There is an old story about Diana Ross. "Call her Miss Ross."
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There Are No Children Here: When Survival Makes a Child Grow Up Too Soon
In 1993, Oprah Winfrey starred in a television movie called There Are No Children Here. She played LaJoe Rivers, a Black mother raising her children in Chicago’s Henry Horner Homes, a public housing development where violence, p [...]

Survivor Affirmations: You Are Not Too Late for Your Own Life
Maybe the life you imagined for yourself was supposed to happen by now.
That is the part we don't always say out loud.
You thought you would have written the book by now. Started the business. Finished school. Traveled. Ma [...]
Steve Harvey Survived the Closed Door Because It Wasn’t His Only Door
There is something Steve Harvey has been saying lately that I think is worth hearing beyond the celebrity story.
Harvey has spoken about conflict he experienced with a powerful television executive and what he believes ha [...]

You Remember the Beat. But Do You Remember What Chubb Rock Was Saying?
I have been thinking about Chubb Rock’s “Treat ’Em Right”.
Maybe it is because I keep hearing people talk about hip-hop as though an entire generation of Black music can be summarized by the worst words anybody ever said on a [...]

Bob Mackie Set Beauty Free: Remembering a Designer Who Knew How to……
Before Bob Mackie dressed Diana Ross, Tina Turner, Cher, Dolly Parton and some of the most famous women in entertainment, Black women were already d-r-e-s-s-e-d.
Look at photographs of Black Americans from the 1920s, ’30s and [...]

Why Does He Get Angry When You’re Happy? When Your Joy Becomes a Problem in a Controlling Relationship
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Why women’s laughter has long been treated as a threat | Psyche IdeasÂ
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There is a scene television loves to give us before a man becomes violent with a [...]

Florida A&M Marching 100: They Gave Dolly Parton Her Flowers Like Black HBCU Bands Do
A great Black marching band performance is not casual praise. It is labor as praise.
Somebody had to arrange “9 to 5” for that instrumentation. Musicians had to learn their individual parts. Sections had to rehearse until they [...]

Dance is a Weapon, a Womb, and a Journey Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.”
Across time and across oceans, African peoples have danced through grief, joy, resistance, and survival. For us, dance has n [...]

Your Usefulness is Something You Give. Your Worth is Something YOU Have.
Sometimes people, even high-profile people push their fans and admirers away because THEY realize that they were performing and trying to earn love. They realize that the person that others loved wasn't the "real" them.
No, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Solidarity is Reciprocal
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?
If you are able, you definitely want to avoid allowing people to recruit you for battles and wars AND TH [...]

Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and professional boxing would make his hands famous around the world. He would defeat men [...]

Greg Louganis Was One of the Strongest Athletes in the World. That Didn’t Make Him Safe.
Greg Louganis knew what it meant to command his body.
At the height of his career, he could climb ten meters above a pool, launch himself into open air, rotate with astonishing precision and enter the water with barely a dist [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invitation to breathe, to feel, to remember that you mattered. Behind that quiet rev [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Am Allowed to Be More than My Worst Decision
Maybe we don't have more talented female singers in mainstream markets these days because we never learned how to treat them?Â
There was something about Chrisette Michele’s voice that could sit inside feelings Black women do [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
Some lives shine because of talent.
Others shine because of courage.
Nell [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Have the Courage to Expand and Not Shrink
There is a particular kind of courage nobody talks about enough.
It is the courage to remain recognizable to yourself.
Most of us learn very early that belonging has rules. Children figure out which parts of themselves mak [...]

Survivor Affirmation: I Love and Approve of Myself No Matter What
🌟 Affirmation
I love and approve of myself, no matter what.
I am a valuable person and make worthwhile contributions to the world.
Each day, in big and small ways, I remind myself of this.
In any circumstance, I know that [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Love My Uniqueness
I love myself for my uniqueness.I value myself because I am different.
I am exactly as I am meant to be.
Only I can make my own unique contributions to the world.
When I think about this, I feel pride.
Therefor [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
🌸 Groovy Affirmations: Becoming Beautiful to Myself, for Myself
The more I become myself, the more I become art.
 I create my own rhythm of beauty—no mirrors required.
My reflection is a [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
The Fire Comes Back: What Happens When You Finally Feel Safe
For a long time, it was survival.
You moved through your days like a soldier—alert, braced, eyes scanning, body tight, heart tired.
You were here. [...]
Affirmations for Cutting Through the “Devil” Dodge
Here is a set of affirmations designed to cut through the "smoke and mirrors" of redirected blame. These are meant to ground you when someone tries to [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Release Myself from Toxic Relationships
I release relationships that feed on my light but offer no warmth in return.I am not here to shrink, dim, or beg for reciprocity.
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🌿 Dear Woman Who is Learning to Trust Herself Again
I see you.
Standing there at the edge of every decision,weighing it with a careful hand,a heart that still flinches sometimes,a mind that remembers t [...]
Being Silenced Doesn’t Mean I Was Wrong
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When the world doesn’t want to hear your truth,they may call you "dramatic", "bitter", "att [...]
I Choose Boundaries, Not Codependency: An Affirmation for Healing
Sometimes, the language of “codependency” gets weaponized against people—especially women—who were raised to care, to
nurture, to serve. Humans [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
🌺 The Sacred Right to Be Seen, Loud, and Whole
There is a world that fears your full presence.Not just your voice — but your volume.Not just your story — but your entire truth.Not just your surviva [...]
Strategies for Dealing with Stress
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I Can’t Educate the Willfully Ignorant While Healing Myself
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Some people don’t misunderstand you by accident.They misunderstand you on purpose.
They do [...]
Transformation Via Self-Compassion
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HEALTHING JOURNEY
✨ “You’re Not Broken”: Affirmations for Survivors Living with PTSD
My mind is not broken—it is doing what it had to do to survive the unspeakable.
I honor the parts of me that feel chaotic, confused, or [...]
Keep on Movin: Quotes on Perseverance from Black Women
♥ Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped b [...]
Reclaim Your Confidence: 7 Quick Tips (audio)
Sometimes we lose our confidence in ourselves and others. This podcast episode will give you 7 tips to help you recover quickly. R [...]
Your Hormones Are Not Betraying You—They’re Trying to Protect You
Let’s make one thing clear:
You are not crazy.You are not lazy.You are not broken.
You are in a body that has been trying to protect you in ways n [...]
She Is AMAZING
Sheila Johnson: When the Path Changes, I Do Not Shrink—I Reimagine
I am not limited by what did not work.I am expanded by what I now know.I dream again—and this time, I dream with power.
There are women who succeed.
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Survivor Affirmations: I Carry Forward the Creativity and Brilliance of Women Who Came Before Me.
Sarah Boone (1832–1904) was one of the first Black women in the United States to receive a patent, but not the very first.
In 1892, Boone w [...]
BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH 📺🤎
Before many of us knew the word “representation,” we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
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Denise Ho: 🌿Once You See It, You Can’t Go Back
“The greatest gift in this life is always more of me—and I am not going back to less.”
Denise Ho was a singer.
A successful one.
She had:
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Keep the Faith for Better Dayz: Healing Affirmations for the Weary Heart (video by Kirby)
Affirmations for Better Dayz inspired by the insanely beautiful and talented Kirby!
I am walking past the haze of yesterday and stepping into t [...]
The Story of Kemba Smith Pradia
May we continue to be reminded and never forget that women in prison (most of whom have survived painful abuse and violence) are indeed human beings.& [...]
ART HEALS
BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are “re [...]
10 Inspiring Quotes from Survivor Queen Latifah
The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respec [...]
8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
Inspired by Survivor Viola Davis: You Don’t Need Perfect Weather to Bloom
Some flowers wait for sunshine.Others learn how to grow toward the light
even while clouds remain overhead.
Gratitude to a shining star....Viola Da [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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