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Your Usefulness is Something You Give. Your Worth is Something YOU Have.
Sometimes people, even high-profile people push their fans and admirers away because THEY realize that they were performing and trying to earn love. They realize that the person that others loved wasn't the "real" them.
No, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Solidarity is Reciprocal
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?
If you are able, you definitely want to avoid allowing people to recruit you for battles and wars AND TH [...]

Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and professional boxing would make his hands famous around the world. He would defeat men [...]

Greg Louganis Was One of the Strongest Athletes in the World. That Didn’t Make Him Safe.
Greg Louganis knew what it meant to command his body.
At the height of his career, he could climb ten meters above a pool, launch himself into open air, rotate with astonishing precision and enter the water with barely a dist [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invitation to breathe, to feel, to remember that you mattered. Behind that quiet rev [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Am Allowed to Be More than My Worst Decision
Maybe we don't have more talented female singers in mainstream markets these days because we never learned how to treat them?Â
There was something about Chrisette Michele’s voice that could sit inside feelings Black women do [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
Some lives shine because of talent.
Others shine because of courage.
Nell [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Have the Courage to Expand and Not Shrink
There is a particular kind of courage nobody talks about enough.
It is the courage to remain recognizable to yourself.
Most of us learn very early that belonging has rules. Children figure out which parts of themselves mak [...]

Survivor Affirmation: I Love and Approve of Myself No Matter What
🌟 Affirmation
I love and approve of myself, no matter what.
I am a valuable person and make worthwhile contributions to the world.
Each day, in big and small ways, I remind myself of this.
In any circumstance, I know that [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Love My Uniqueness
I love myself for my uniqueness.I value myself because I am different.
I am exactly as I am meant to be.
Only I can make my own unique contributions to the world.
When I think about this, I feel pride.
Therefor [...]

They Loved the Style, Not the Black Woman: Esther Jones and the Betty Boop Lesson
Exploitation is a hand that smiles while taking.
It praises your light, then sells your flame.
It calls it “help,” but leaves you colder.
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These days when people are pretty casual and complacent about women's [...]

10 Lessons the African Drongo Bird Teaches Us About Manipulation
Most of us have the capacity to manipulate at times. We may exaggerate, avoid difficult conversations, or try to influence outcomes in our favor.
But some people make manipulation a way of life.
They study peop [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Lessons From the Female Elephant on Survival
There is a question women are asked to answer that we were never really equipped to answer.
How do you know which men are good and which men are dangerous?
Women are expected to somehow know. After harm happens, people may [...]

Across the Water: We Were Never Surviving Alone
There is a way of telling Black history that can accidentally leave Black Americans standing alone.
We learn about the courage it took to survive slavery and Jim Crow, build schools and businesses, organize churches and mutua [...]
SurvivorAffirmations: You Do Not Have to Become a Tragedy Before We See You
Sometimes a woman does not need another person telling her to be strong.
She has been strong all morning.
She got somebody dressed. Found the missing shoe. Answered the message. Remembered the appointment. Made something to ea [...]
The Scar Is Not the Whole Story: What Miss World Uganda’s Extraordinary Gown Asked Us to See
There are dresses designed to make us look.
Then there are dresses designed to make us understand.
When Miss World Uganda Muhoza Trivia Elle appeared in a remarkable gown called Layers of Life, she was certainly beautiful. The [...]
The Day the Women Came Together: The Nigerian Women’s War of 1929
It began with a question at a woman’s home.
Not a battlefield. Not a government building. Not a grand speech delivered before thousands of people.
A question.
In 1929, in southeastern Nigeria, an Igbo woman named Nw [...]
Naomi Osaka: They Mocked Her When She Was Hurting. Now They Mock Her for Shining
I can't. Some of the loudest fashion critics of Naomi Osaka are at work right now dressed like they came to help somebody move.
There is a particular kind of woman who gets dressed for work.
Not merely dressed enough to ar [...]
I Don’t Remember a World Before Dolly Parton
I think some artists enter your life so early that you cannot remember becoming a person without them. Their voices get mixed up with childhood itself: the rooms you lived in, the things you loved, the first private discoveries [...]

The Afro-Peruvian Woman Who Started Telling the Story She Couldn’t Find
Natalia Barrera Francis did not have to invent an Afro-Peruvian history. It was already there. Generations of Afro-Peruvian people had lived, worked, created, struggled, raised families, made music, built communities and helped [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Survivor Affirmations: Actually, I CAN and I WILL (podcast short)
Building on the true story of the United States' first elected woman mayor, Susanna Salter, this short episode inspires li [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
đź–¤ Affirmations for Black Girls Who Had to Be Strong Too Soon
Let this be your softness. Your sanctuary. Your yes.
I was never supposed to carry all that weight—but I did. And I honor the girl who survived [...]
The Five Forgotten Benefits of Conflict (audio)
 If we use it right, conflict is a great tool for building stronger and healthier communities.  Tonya GJ Prince offers five ways we tend to for [...]
Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement [...]
Affirmations for Women Beyond Respectability
I am worthy because I am human, not because I fit someone else's definition of a "good woman."
I do not have to earn my dignity. It belongs to me.
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The Story of Kemba Smith Pradia
May we continue to be reminded and never forget that women in prison (most of whom have survived painful abuse and violence) are indeed human beings.& [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Compassion at the Table: Nothing New, This How We Do
Where I am from, when we say DEI, we’re saying:
“You belong here. I see you. I will work so that you can be safe, heard, and fully present.”
I [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our trut [...]
đź’– You Deserve to Feel Safe
Affirmations for Survivors Learning to Trust Peace Again
There is a kind of safety that isn’t just physical.
It’s emotional.Spiritual.Energetic.
It [...]

How Depression Looks Different in Black Women
Years ago, it shocked me when I learned I was depressed. I was not weepy or crying. The healer had to be wrong. But she was not. She was brilliant. Sh [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
The Healing Hum: A Sound Our Bodies Remember
Before we had language for healing…Before we knew the words nervous system or self-regulation…Many of us grew up in homes where someone hummed us th [...]
When Reality Is Contested: How Survivors Protect Their Truth in Controlled Narratives
It’s about trust in what is real.It’s about who gets to define truth.It’s about whether change is organic or imposed.And it’s about whether people are [...]
🌿 Meghan Markle: Affirmations for Those Still Standing
I am still here, and that alone is a victory.
What tried to break me did not get the final word.
My spirit bends, but it does not [...]
BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAVE AMAZING STORIES 📺
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens, because Black girls have amazing st [...]
✨ Survivor Lesson: When You Rise, You Don’t React the Same
Affirmation + Spiritual Empowerment for Protecting Your Peace
Some people exist to disturb the peace of others. (or so it seems)They push buttons. Th [...]
She Is AMAZING
The Day the Women Came Together: The Nigerian Women’s War of 1929
It began with a question at a woman’s home.
Not a battlefield. Not a government building. Not a grand speech delivered before thousands of peop [...]
Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From — Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that “healing” means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL 🤎
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could b [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Am Allowed to Be More than My Worst Decision
Maybe we don't have more talented female singers in mainstream markets these days because we never learned how to treat them?Â
There was something [...]
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
After being blacklisted in the United States in 1968, Eartha Kitt had several choices. She chose to find new doors and soar.
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🌤️ Clarity After Chaos, Grief, and Rain
There comes a moment — after the thunder, after the tears — when the air feels different.
It’s quieter.
Cleaner.
You can finally see what was [...]
ART HEALS
She Quit Dancing for Britney Spears and Janet Jackson to Design Luxury Shoes Janet Wears
This entrepreneur quit dancing for Britney Spears and Janet Jackson to follow her passion for designing luxury shoes - Face2Face Africa
Giving [...]
🌿 You Were Never Meant to Live for Their Applause (w/playlist)
Survivor, I see you.Maybe you’ve been praised for being strong. Maybe you’ve been ignored for being too real.Either way, too many of us were taught th [...]
12 Facts About Sounds of Blackness and Their Uplifting Song “Optimistic”
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In times of struggle, we lean on music to remind us who we are, where we’ve been, and what we’re capable of. Sounds of Blac [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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