
Jungle Boogie: The Joy of Funk and Giving Yourself Permission to Feel Good
Sometimes the music reminds us that we are still alive, and that is reason enough to dance.
There is something wonderfully uplifting about “Jungle Boogie” by Kool & the Gang. From the moment those horns come charging in, th [...]

The Cabin Kids: Black Children, Beautiful Voices, and the Joy We Kept Singing Into the World
Black history holds more than what was done to us. It holds everything we created, loved, celebrated, and shared with the world.
Watching old footage of Black children singing warms my heart. Especially when you know the hist [...]

Edward Crawford Jr. Tried to Protect Children in Ferguson. We Should Remember His Story.
Remembering Edward Crawford Jr., Darren Seals, and the Ferguson protesters whose lives and deaths deserve more than silence.
There is a photograph from the Ferguson protests that many people remember, even if they do not reme [...]

Janet Jackson’s Control: The 1986 Album That Taught Young Women to Expect Respect
Before we had today's language for boundaries, emotional labor, and relationship expectations, Janet Jackson was singing about them.
In 1986, Janet Jackson released Control, an album that gave young women something worth list [...]
Why Are Women Expected to Compromise Their Safety?
Mistreatment can teach us the wrong lessons. It can teach women to question our instincts, ignore our discomfort, and mistake surrendering our boundaries for kindness, fairness, or compassion.
For example, a woman may say, "I [...]
I Don’t Have to Explain the Boundaries That Keep Me Safe
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You’ve explained enough.
Why you stayed. Why you left.Why you didn’t speak sooner. Why you did.Why you flinched. Why you disappeared. Why you blocked them.
Now they wa [...]
Are You Still Protecting People Who Never Protected You? 5 Powerful Questions to Break the Cycle
These affirmations are written with tenderness, truth, and a deep honoring of those who carry the ache of being raised by parents who did not do their best—not because they couldn’t, but because they wouldn’t. These are for the [...]

Grief Comes Back Again and Again. So Can Love.
How remembrance, music, and personal tributes can help us live with loss
There is something especially beautiful about the hip-hop classic They Reminisce Over You (T.R.O.Y.) by Pete Rock & CL Smooth. Released in 1992, the [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Survivor Affirmations: I Will Find a Way or Create a Way
Sometimes the way seems impossible until you figure out that you came here to show the world new ways.
Affirmations: I [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Seeking Care Safely After Harm: Language for Survivors and Providers
Many Survivors have told me some version of this:
"I knew something felt wrong. I just didn't know what to call it."
That is more co [...]
Reclaim Your Confidence: 7 Quick Tips (audio)
Sometimes we lose our confidence in ourselves and others. This podcast episode will give you 7 tips to help you recover quickly. R [...]
Soul Train: Where art became cross-cultural language
Soul Train. Soullll Train. The hippest trip in America.
 I was in front of my television nearly every Saturday morning and pouted when I couldn't be. [...]
🌿 Josephine Baker: She Found a Place Where She Could Breathe
Joséphine Baker did not just “move to France.”
She left a place that constrained her…and stepped into a place that, for a time, allowed her to expand [...]
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Women Are the Source, Not the Punchline
“It is not inclusive to sit silent while people mock the beauty and humanity of women. That is not progress—it is plain old misogyny. The same misogyn [...]

Vanessa Williams Refused to Become the Worst Thing People Said About Her
Deal with yourself as a individual, worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way. -Nikki Giovanni
It was 1984, and Vanessa [...]
Survivor Affirmations for the Sharp Pain of Betrayal
Affirmations
✨ I release the pain of betrayal and reclaim my peace.
✨ What broke me open is now making me stronger.
✨ I trust m [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
🌿 Halimah Yacob: She Was Not Handed Ease. She Built Something Anyway.
Halimah Yacob did not begin life surrounded by comfort.
She lost her father young.Her family struggled.There were real limitations. Not imagined ones [...]
8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
Sip Slow: Herbal Teas That Bring Us Calm
When the world won't hush, we return to the quiet gifts our ancestors trusted.One of them? Tea.
Not just any tea.But herbs that know how to soothe [...]
Even in Silence. Even in Fear. I Was Resisting.
You may not have screamed.You may not have fought back the way they say you “should have.”You may not have run, or yelled, or told anyone.
But please [...]
Social Anxiety and The Tips: That Work to Ease Anxiety
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25 Survival Foods of Slaves on Plantations
“I do not wait for permission to create—I design, I build, I transform.”
“Every problem I face carries within it the blueprint of my bril [...]
She Is AMAZING
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
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🌟 Resilience & Strength
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
Vivica A. Fox: A master class in showing up and showing out from her days on Soul Train
Soul Train dancers were not “just dancers.”
They were artists.
People sometimes talk about Soul Train like it was simply a place to party.
But look [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 1)
Updated for 2025
🌿 For the Survivor’s Journey
1. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
2. “You alone are eno [...]
They Loved the Style, Not the Black Woman: Esther Jones and the Betty Boop Lesson
Exploitation is a hand that smiles while taking.
It praises your light, then sells your flame.
It calls it “help,” but leaves you colder.
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THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS 🎀
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the s [...]
ART HEALS
Bob Mackie Set Beauty Free: Remembering a Designer Who Knew How to……
Before Bob Mackie dressed Diana Ross, Tina Turner, Cher, Dolly Parton and some of the most famous women in entertainment, Black women were already d-r [...]
Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement [...]
Affirming Television Moments: When the Women Tore Down the Wall
First, giving gratitude to Oprah because this type of programming was very uncommon back in 1989. When you wanted to see television films like this, y [...]
7 Ways Listening to Sad Music Can Relieve Sadness (podcast recording)
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JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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