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After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
She Quit Dancing for Britney Spears and Janet Jackson to Design Luxury Shoes Janet Wears
This entrepreneur quit dancing for Britney Spears and Janet Jackson to follow her passion for designing luxury shoes - Face2Fa [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Wise Words from Dr. ShantaQuilette Develle MBA, PhD CFE, EA, CPLC
Is this wise advice or what?! She laid this out plain.
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Affirmations for Cutting Through the “Devil” Dodge
Here is a set of affirmations designed to cut through the "smoke and mirrors" of redirected blame. These are meant to ground you when someone tries to [...]
Why You Canβt Just βGet Overβ Trauma: The Science Behind Healing with Dr. Tracey Marks
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SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could b [...]
They Spoke Labels. I Lived Through Fire.
β¨ Affirmation β¨
They tried to pin me down with names that never belonged to me.
They whispered labels meant to wound, meant to cage.
But I rose t [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Dr. George Tann: Your Value Does Not Disappear Because Others Refuse to See It
So Netflix has a new adaptation of Little House on the Prairie and some people are calling it "woke."
A reminder that "woke" means aware, enlightened [...]

πΊ You Are the Proof β Not the Problem
They said you were the problem.Too loud. Too soft. Too different. Too much.But the truth is, you were only ever too real for a world addicted to pre [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I’m a master of messing up, and a ninja of new beginnings!
I'm a master of messing up, and a ninja of new beginnings!
You may never get an apology....
You may never get justice.....
But you must, forg [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way) w/ Affirmations
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way)
If you want to step away from the digital noise and tap into that grounded, authentic energy of th [...]
Affirming Television Moments: When the Women Tore Down the Wall
First, giving gratitude to Oprah because this type of programming was very uncommon back in 1989. When you wanted to see television films like this, y [...]
I Choose Boundaries, Not Codependency: An Affirmation for Healing
Sometimes, the language of βcodependencyβ gets weaponized against peopleβespecially womenβwho were raised to care, to
nurture, to serve. Humans [...]
Depression: Reaching Out for Help IS Strength (w/Resources)
Β Strong people experience depression. The times that we are living in now are not just tough, they are also culturally transitional.Β That can bring o [...]
π΅ Everyday People: A Prayer for Boundaries and Belonging
βI am everyday peopleβ¦β
Simple words, sacred meaning.
Arrested Developmentβs βPeople Everydayβ is more than a remix of a classic β itβs a less [...]
βπΎ Affirmations to Rebuild Trust in Yourself After Abuse
Because you were never brokenβjust interrupted. Now, you rise.
I am learning to trust my inner voice again. It never left meβit was o [...]
She Is AMAZING
Affirming Television Moments: When the Women Tore Down the Wall
First, giving gratitude to Oprah because this type of programming was very uncommon back in 1989. When you wanted to see television films like this, y [...]
π Dear Strong Black Girl
Who had to grow up before she was ready.
You were praised for how grown you acted.For how well you held things together.For how much you helped, how [...]
Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a βwronged wife.β
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who belie [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Opal Lee, Who Walked Until the Nation Had to Remember
Some people wait for permission.
Opal Lee did something older, wiser, and stronger. She walked.
She walked with history in her bones a [...]
ART HEALS
12 Reasons Lauryn Hill Deserves More Respect for Her Impact on Music (w/affirmations)
updated from March 2026
The only reason that men question Lauryn Hill's
accomplishments
is because they can't find a way
to take credit for them. [...]
Survivor Must-Read Reading List: Black Widow by Leslie Gray Streeter
I've been familiar with the power of Leslie's pen for years. But when a storm of loss and change came around just when her beautiful memoir was [...]
Merry Christmas Brave and Courageous Survivors!
My feelings matter, even during the holidays. Iβm allowed to honor them.
I choose to notice kindness instead of chasing app [...]
When You Stop Feeling Like You Have to Keep Proving Yourself
Lauryn Hill was awarded the BET Icon Award, and some are still saying that she didn't do enough. "It was just one album."
That framing leaves out a l [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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