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Sometimes Healing Has Four Paws: How Pets Can Help Us Through Grief.
Grief does not always announce what it needs.
Sometimes we think we need answers. Sometimes we think we need to be left alone. Sometimes we bury ourselves in work, exercise, responsibilities, television, or anything else [...]
After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
π΅ Everyday People: A Prayer for Boundaries and Belonging
βI am everyday peopleβ¦β
Simple words, sacred meaning.
Arrested Developmentβs βPeople Everydayβ is more than a remix of a c [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Stretch If You Can, Beautiful Survivor
If you are ableβStretch.
Not to perform.Not to compete.Not to become smaller.But to return to your body with love.
Stretch to feel the breath move [...]
πΉ Even Their Hatred Confirms Your Impact
When the whispers start,
when the eyes roll,when they twist your name into something smallerβpause.
Remember: people do not waste hatred on what i [...]
πΏ Dear Woman Who is Letting Herself Rest Without Earning It
The way you pauseβhalf ready to sit down, half ready to keep moving,still listening for some unseen judge to tell you itβs okay to stop.
The guilt th [...]
When the Leaves Turn Black: Affirmations for Renewal and Release (video by Kirby)
I love the trips that Kirby's music takes us on.....
Affirmations that she inspires......
I transform what once felt like βblack leavesβ [...]
Easy Yoga – Lying Down!
We recognize that many Survivors of all kinds of traumas have limited mobility.Β Here is a channel on Youtube that guides viewers through yoga whi [...]
8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Keep the Faith for Better Dayz: Healing Affirmations for the Weary Heart (video by Kirby)
Affirmations for Better Dayz inspired by the insanely beautiful and talented Kirby!
I am walking past the haze of yesterday and stepping into t [...]
ποΈ Affirmation Post: βThey Didnβt See, But I Survived Anywayβ
A voice for the ones who were never rescued, but rescued themselves.
They didnβt see me.
Not when the harm was loud.Not when the silence w [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee U [...]
Why Catastrophizers Arenβt Helpful in a Crisis
Β βIf you want to fly, you have to giveΒ
up everything that weighs you down."
Toni Morrison
Β
Weβve all been there: youβre navigating a [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
Boundaries for Survival: 5 Top Tips for Creating Boundaries (audio)
Boundaries for Survival: 5 Top Tips for Creating Boundaries (audio)
[...]
7 Ways Listening to Sad Music Can Relieve Sadness (podcast recording)
Podcast Episode Link
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ποΈ Survivor Affirmations Post: βI Am Not Here to Carry What Broke Meβ
A release for the Survivor who is ready to set the weight down.
There was a time when I thought it was my job to hold it all.
Hold the pai [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Give Myself Flowers Today
πΊ Affirmations: I Give Myself Flowers Today πΊ
I give myself flowers today, for the beauty that blooms in me was planted by women who we [...]
I Canβt Educate the Willfully Ignorant While Healing Myself
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Some people donβt misunderstand you by accident.They misunderstand you on purpose.
They do [...]
Justification of MY Healing Timeline is Not Part of My Journey
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Others will say you βshould be over it by now.βBut healing isnβt a race.And grief doesnβt [...]
She Is AMAZING
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
Updated for 2025
π Resilience & Strength
βYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities h [...]
Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement [...]
Survivor Affirmations Inspired by The Joy Luck Club (with audio book)
Thereβs something sacred aboutΒ The Joy Luck Club.Not just the storyβbut the witnessing. The layering. The quiet truths that refuse to stay buried.
Le [...]
Why Harriet Tubman Gave the Gift the Freedom on Christmas Eve
Harriet Tubman helped her brothers escape at Christmas. Their master intended to sell them after Christmas but was delayed by the holi [...]
ART HEALS
10 Inspiring Quotes from Survivor Queen Latifah
The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respec [...]
πΏJosephine Baker: She Refused the Limits Placed on Her Body
JosΓ©phine Baker was born in the United States.She knew segregation.She knew what it meant to be looked at and notΒ seen.
So she left.
And in Paris⦠s [...]
When You Stop Feeling Like You Have to Keep Proving Yourself
Lauryn Hill was awarded the BET Icon Award, and some are still saying that she didn't do enough. "It was just one album."
That framing leaves out a l [...]
π΅ Tennessee: A Prayer for the Weary Soul
βLord, Iβve really been real stressed, down and out, losinβ groundβ¦β
Those first words from Arrested Developmentβs βTennesseeβ still feel like pr [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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