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Dr. Tracey Marks: People Who Drain You vs. People Who Energize You
Why do some people calm your brain while others drain it? One of our favorite psychiatrists, Dr. Tracey Marks, explains how your nervous system regulates with safe peopleâplus a simple body check.
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What âFind 100 Waysâ Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
The Playlist: Funk, Soul, and Body Release
Some anxiety does not need another explanation. It needs a doorway out of the body.
Sometimes anxiety does not leave through thinking. Sometimes it leaves through the shoulders. Through the jaw. Through the hands. Through the b [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a womanâs re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just âthe children are gone now.â
Not just a season people joke about with sadness, lon [...]
When Dismissal Tries to Turn You Against Your Own Body
âThe function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.â Toni Morrison
Mistreatment often tries to make th [...]

Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a âwronged wife.â
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who believed disagreement was disobedience. She was a woman living under laws that trea [...]
Affirmations for Patients Who Are Afraid They Will Not Be Heard at the Doctorâs Office
There is a particular kind of tired that comes from knowing something is happening in your body, then having to gather your strength to explain it to someone who may or may not listen.
Some patients walk into the doctorâs offic [...]

Different Go-Go, Same Refusal to Disappear into Misery
I just discovered something beautiful.
There are two kinds of âGoGo.â
One was born in Washington, DC.
One comes from Tanzania.
And somehow, both are rooted in survival.
Many of us Black Americans kno [...]
Mama I Love You: Women Are Amazing, Unique, and Special!
Tyron Woodleyâs mother congratulates Kamaru Usman at UFC 235
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"It's all good, baby. It's all good. It's your turn. It ain't his turn."Â
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Please, do not ever let anyone convince you of false th [...]

Ketty Lester: Honor the Firsts, Remember the Closed Doors
Ketty Lester deserves more than a passing mention. She deserves the kind of appreciation that slows the room down.
Born Revoyda Frierson in Hope, Arkansas, she came from a farming family and grew into a singer and actress whose [...]

The 12 Somatic Knots of Trauma â The Complete Map from Sacrum to Jaw (and How to Untie Them)
updated from March 24, 2024
Somatic healing is not just âtake a deep breath and calm down.â
Sometimes your body is holding a story your mouth got tired of telling.
Your shoulders may remember what you had to carry.
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Their Words Do Not Name Me. Survival Does.
⨠Affirmation â¨
Their words tried to cling to me like chains,
but I shook them off.
Their judgments do not define me.
Their names do not name me.
I carry the name given by my survivalâStrength. Courage. Unbreakable.
I wa [...]

The Lie of âNot Enough Trained Peopleâ: What Martin, Motown, and Black Representation Already Proved
There is an old lie that keeps getting dressed up as wisdom.
It says Black communities do not get full representation because there are not enough âtrainedâ people.
Not enough trained actors.
Not enough trained writers.
Not [...]
The Black Performance Genius Behind Americaâs âIconicâ Jazz Style
I like Bob Fosse too. He was a brilliant dancer and choreographer. But his style is heavily influenced by Black dancers. You can't even put too much "heavy" on the "heavily influenced."
American stage entertainment keeps [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Survivor Must-Read Reading List: Black Widow by Leslie Gray Streeter
I've been familiar with the power of Leslie's pen for years. But when a storm of loss and change came around just when her b [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
12 Free Books to Support Your Trauma Healing Journey
Whether youâre healing from personal trauma, systemic injustice, or generational pain, you deserve tools and support that honor the fullness of your s [...]
âđž Affirmations to Rebuild Trust in Yourself After Abuse
Because you were never brokenâjust interrupted. Now, you rise.
I am learning to trust my inner voice again. It never left meâit was o [...]
đ Dear Woman with PTSD
You are not broken.
I know that sometimes it feels like you are.When your heart races for no reason.When you're exhausted from hypervigilance.When yo [...]
The Harlem Photos That Were Hidden for 40 Years
These photos are evidence of resilience.
In 1970, New York City was officially collapsing. The media called it "Fear City." But while the world saw [...]
Prayer Is Still Power: A Survivorâs Sanctuary
Prayer has held us when nothing else could.When the world closed its ears.When justice was denied.When even our own voices trembled in silenceâpraye [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
Iâm Allowed to Move On Without Making It Make Sense to Anyone Else
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Some people wonât understand why you left.Why you stopped calling.Why you unfollowed.Why [...]

8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Build Boundaries to Protect My Peace (audio/podcast)
Hosted by Tonya GJ Prince, this episode includes reminders for Survivors of abuse and violence to continue crafting boundaries that protect [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Release Myself from Toxic Relationships
I release relationships that feed on my light but offer no warmth in return.I am not here to shrink, dim, or beg for reciprocity.
AND......
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HEALTHING JOURNEY
Keep on Movin: Quotes on Perseverance from Black Women
⼠Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped b [...]
Remember the Time: Memory Remembers Meaning, Not Calendars
Memory does not keep time the way clocks do.
It keeps impact.
It keeps feeling.
It keeps the moments when something inside us recognized truth befo [...]
đ¤ď¸ Clarity After Chaos, Grief, and Rain
There comes a moment â after the thunder, after the tears â when the air feels different.
Itâs quieter.
Cleaner.
You can finally see what was [...]
The Bold Choice to Live AND Thrive
Tyka said I could, so I did. -Prince (Tyka Nelson was Prince's sister who recently passed away)
Notice how people speak about sacrifices made for art [...]
10 Affirmations For Women Securing Their Own Well-Being
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Strong boundaries empower my empathy; I can be loving without enabling behavior that harms.
Allowing harmful behavior serves no oneâI choose s [...]
She Is AMAZING
Sheila Johnson: When the Path Changes, I Do Not ShrinkâI Reimagine
I am not limited by what did not work.I am expanded by what I now know.I dream againâand this time, I dream with power.
There are women who succeed.
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Affirming Television Moments: When the Women Tore Down the Wall
First, giving gratitude to Oprah because this type of programming was very uncommon back in 1989. When you wanted to see television films like this, y [...]
đż Josephine Baker: She Found a Place Where She Could Breathe
JosĂŠphine Baker did not just âmove to France.â
She left a place that constrained herâŚand stepped into a place that, for a time, allowed her to expand [...]
The Story of Kemba Smith Pradia
May we continue to be reminded and never forget that women in prison (most of whom have survived painful abuse and violence) are indeed human beings.& [...]
50 Things to Talk About Instead of Black Womenâs Hair (Because Your Concern is Not Genuine)
Letâs be honestâBlack womenâs hair has been politicized, policed, and prodded at for far too long. Weâve worn it straight, coiled, locked, twisted, [...]
ART HEALS
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit
Few voices have spoken to the human condition with the clarity, courage, and compassion of James Baldwin. He did not write to decorate reality. He wro [...]
Affirmations for Cutting Through the “Devil” Dodge
Here is a set of affirmations designed to cut through the "smoke and mirrors" of redirected blame. These are meant to ground you when someone tries to [...]
đş Frida Kahlo: She Lived in a Body That Hurtâand Still Created Beauty
 For a long time I celebrated Frida's art and had no idea she lived in pain. I was truly spellbound by the art. As a young person, I thought the art w [...]
What Song Has Brought Comfort and Healing to You?
In this life, there will be pain, trials, and tribulations. Â I am truly thankful for the gift of music. High-quality music can sooth [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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