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What “Find 100 Ways” Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
The Playlist: Funk, Soul, and Body Release
Some anxiety does not need another explanation. It needs a doorway out of the body.
Sometimes anxiety does not leave through thinking. Sometimes it leaves through the shoulders. Through the jaw. Through the hands. Through the b [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a woman’s re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just “the children are gone now.”
Not just a season people joke about with sadness, lon [...]
When Dismissal Tries to Turn You Against Your Own Body
“The function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.” Toni Morrison
Mistreatment often tries to make th [...]

Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a “wronged wife.”
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who believed disagreement was disobedience. She was a woman living under laws that trea [...]
Affirmations for Patients Who Are Afraid They Will Not Be Heard at the Doctor’s Office
There is a particular kind of tired that comes from knowing something is happening in your body, then having to gather your strength to explain it to someone who may or may not listen.
Some patients walk into the doctor’s offic [...]

Different Go-Go, Same Refusal to Disappear into Misery
I just discovered something beautiful.
There are two kinds of “GoGo.”
One was born in Washington, DC.
One comes from Tanzania.
And somehow, both are rooted in survival.
Many of us Black Americans kno [...]
Mama I Love You: Women Are Amazing, Unique, and Special!
Tyron Woodley’s mother congratulates Kamaru Usman at UFC 235
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"It's all good, baby. It's all good. It's your turn. It ain't his turn."Â
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Please, do not ever let anyone convince you of false th [...]

Ketty Lester: Honor the Firsts, Remember the Closed Doors
Ketty Lester deserves more than a passing mention. She deserves the kind of appreciation that slows the room down.
Born Revoyda Frierson in Hope, Arkansas, she came from a farming family and grew into a singer and actress whose [...]

The 12 Somatic Knots of Trauma — The Complete Map from Sacrum to Jaw (and How to Untie Them)
updated from March 24, 2024
Somatic healing is not just “take a deep breath and calm down.”
Sometimes your body is holding a story your mouth got tired of telling.
Your shoulders may remember what you had to carry.
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Their Words Do Not Name Me. Survival Does.
✨ Affirmation ✨
Their words tried to cling to me like chains,
but I shook them off.
Their judgments do not define me.
Their names do not name me.
I carry the name given by my survival—Strength. Courage. Unbreakable.
I wa [...]

The Lie of “Not Enough Trained People”: What Martin, Motown, and Black Representation Already Proved
There is an old lie that keeps getting dressed up as wisdom.
It says Black communities do not get full representation because there are not enough “trained” people.
Not enough trained actors.
Not enough trained writers.
Not [...]
The Black Performance Genius Behind America’s “Iconic” Jazz Style
I like Bob Fosse too. He was a brilliant dancer and choreographer. But his style is heavily influenced by Black dancers. You can't even put too much "heavy" on the "heavily influenced."
American stage entertainment keeps [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Black Women Deserve to Be Believed Without Being Perfect
DARVO becomes even more dangerous when it borrows from racism, sexism, and old lies about Black women and Black girls. We do not honor truth by protecting the most liked person. We honor truth by refusing to let stereotypes test [...]

When Being Yourself Is Labeled “Political”: Why some people are punished simply for showing up
Nat King Cole really was attacked on stage during a concert in Birmingham, Alabama, in 1956.
While performing at the Municipal Auditorium in Birmingham before an all-white audience, a group of white segregationists rushed the s [...]

12 Facts About Sounds of Blackness and Their Uplifting Song “Optimistic”
updated from 2 1 25
In times of struggle, we lean on music to remind us who we are, where we’ve been, and what we’re capable of. Sounds of Blackness has been that voice of encouragement for generations. Their song “Optimi [...]

Sometimes Integrity Gets You Removed: And That Doesn’t Mean You Were Wrong
🎤 Dusty Springfield was a British singer known for her soulful voice and hit songs in the 1960s. Wikipedia
📅  1964: During a tour of South Africa, she refused to perform for segregated audiences under the country’s apartheid la [...]

Keep on Movin: Quotes on Perseverance from Black Women
♥ Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you….....yet, someone survived. You can do anything you choose to do. – [...]

Remember the Time: Memory Remembers Meaning, Not Calendars
Memory does not keep time the way clocks do.
It keeps impact.
It keeps feeling.
It keeps the moments when something inside us recognized truth before our minds had words for it.
That is why so many people remember February [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
🔥 20 Fire-Burning Affirmations for Black Girls Who Were Never Protected
You deserved to be shielded, nurtured, and fiercely loved. These words are for the girl you were and the woman you are becoming. [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
How to Embrace Your Imperfections and Still Believe in Your Worth
🌿 A healing reminder for Survivors learning that they don’t have to be perfect to be powerful.
If you’re a Survivor, chances are you were taught—dire [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Tend My Own Light (w video)
We might not be able to be friends and that's okay.
• Part of my healing is recognizing that not every person deserves access to my spiri [...]
From History to Present: Self-Care Through Yoga in the Black Community
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Healing Words: Women with Controlling Partners by Carol A. Lambert, MSW
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To leave an abusive partner is complicated and challenging.Â
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Most people in this position feel highly ambivalent or just [...]
Sip Slow: Herbal Teas That Bring Us Calm
When the world won't hush, we return to the quiet gifts our ancestors trusted.One of them? Tea.
Not just any tea.But herbs that know how to soothe [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Affirming Television Moments: When the Women Tore Down the Wall
First, giving gratitude to Oprah because this type of programming was very uncommon back in 1989. When you wanted to see television films like this, y [...]
✨ Your Safety Is Sacred. Your Wellness Is Non-Negotiable. ✨
You are allowed to ignore every voice, every post, every pressure that tries to convince you to center the comfort of people who have never once cen [...]

đź–¤ Deep Affirmations That Speak to Fear
🔥 I will not lie to myself about fear
I am afraid sometimes — and still, I move.
Fear is not weakness. Fear means I’m standing at the ed [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
Survivor Must-Read Reading List: Black Widow by Leslie Gray Streeter
I've been familiar with the power of Leslie's pen for years. But when a storm of loss and change came around just when her beautiful memoir was [...]
✨ “You’re Not Broken”: Affirmations for Survivors Living with PTSD
My mind is not broken—it is doing what it had to do to survive the unspeakable.
I honor the parts of me that feel chaotic, confused, or [...]
🔥 20 Fire-Burning Affirmations for Black Girls Who Were Never Protected
You deserved to be shielded, nurtured, and fiercely loved. These words are for the girl you were and the woman you are becoming.
They [...]
The Case Against Full-Time “Nice”
Inauthenticity: Being nice all the time can lead to a lack of authenticity in your interactions. Suppressing your true thoughts and f [...]
She Is AMAZING
Survivor Spotlight: Barbara Joy Hansen
Barbara on Dr. Oz Show with 20 survivors of sexual assault/harassment in New York City.
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This woman is dedicated to healing and ending abuse! [...]
50 Things to Talk About Instead of Black Women’s Hair (Because Your Concern is Not Genuine)
Let’s be honest—Black women’s hair has been politicized, policed, and prodded at for far too long. We’ve worn it straight, coiled, locked, twisted, [...]
Untold Inventions Of Black Women Inventors That Schools Don’t Teach in Black History
Surviving isn’t luck—it’s innovation and strategy. “I create what has never been seen, because innovation runs in my bloodline.” [...]
10 Inspiring Quotes from Survivor Queen Latifah
The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respec [...]
Denise Ho: 🌿Once You See It, You Can’t Go Back
“The greatest gift in this life is always more of me—and I am not going back to less.”
Denise Ho was a singer.
A successful one.
She had:
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ART HEALS
Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From — Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that “healing” means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
Quotes from Harlem Renaissance Author Nella Larsen
✨ Nella Larsen was one of the most brilliant yet often overlooked voices of the Harlem Renaissance. Born in 1891 to a Danish mother and a West [...]
The Bold Choice to Live AND Thrive
Tyka said I could, so I did. -Prince (Tyka Nelson was Prince's sister who recently passed away)
Notice how people speak about sacrifices made for art [...]
Black American Holiday Movie Binge
Thanks to these two wonderful creators for sharing this list with us. And thanks to all the creators....the actors, writers, caterers, assistants, p [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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